Life Design Action: Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
Requires: Consideration for future you, investment in self, small yet sensational steps.
Does not require: A pension plan (yet – I don’t think).
Many schools of thought suggest that living in the present is a certain path to happiness and contentment. I agree. After all, it is almost always our thoughts about a situation – and the worry or regret we are attaching to it – that causes us most stress.
I have proved this beyond reasonable doubt for when Pix is having an utter breakdown around high school, friends, homework, what she did say, didn’t say and what Roo DID say … I say “STOP!”
Then we breathe.
Then we ask ourselves … “is there anything actually wrong Right Now? At this Precise Moment? LOOK – it is snowing a little, the dog next door is barking, the car heater is on so we aren’t freezing. Let’s ask ourselves again – is anything really wrong Right Now?”
At this point we realise that there is not.
And this is Pix – the World’s Most Ultimate Worrier – who we are talking about here.
The Present Moment.
It should be a super hero.
However, we know from experience that the Present Moment is a little like a pearl necklace that we are skipping along. We can only balance on one pearl at a time and those we’ve crossed before make up a beautiful or not-so-beautiful pearl rope bridge that we can look back upon.
We can’t change those pearly patterns of the past.
(So many Ps)
We also know that from this point – the pearl we are standing on TODAY – we can have an influence over what our tomorrow will be like.
And we will still be us.
So it would be nice for the Us Of Tomorrow to make sure we are standing on some good pearls.
Does this make sense?
I have learnt about the Pearl Thing through having to get two children to school.
I have learnt that if I sit on the sofa, drink tea, watch some drossy drivel on the telly and relax – that tomorrow morning I will awaken FRAUGHT. Oh My God! The school uniforms are in the tumble dryer (creased), no pack lunches are made (in fact there’s no bread), note to self – remember to stop at shop and buy cartons in future, hair isn’t washed and HOLY MOTHER OF GOD, Roo hasn’t practised his tables all WEEK!
It’s safe to say that the Bethans on those mornings aren’t feeling very grateful to the Bethan-Of-The-Night-Before.
However, the Bethan who awakens then schwoons out of bed into slippers already laid there ready for her pearly toes, sails into the bathroom refreshed (because she went to bed early), gushes over her babies at breakfast (pack lunches made the previous night and pancakes at the ready), could actually MARRY her Bethan-Of-The-Night-Before.
A lesson to be learned.
And which is sometimes learned and sometimes forgotten, but generally a good thing to remember.
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
You will appreciate it massively.
Today I am thanking my flipping-amazing-bloody-wonderful-last month-self for booking a family holiday to Marrakesh! We leave today!!
Last year the gorgeous Ads and I went there alone and THIS happened.
In my Lets-Do-Something-Future-Bethan-Will-Thank-Me-For world, I considered having one of THESE. But then I didn’t.
Which I’m now thanking myself for because it meant I could go and have another dreadfully expensive and bad meal HERE with the most beautiful Clare and her Spouser.
All in all, I think the talk is being walked.
Bethan – I thank thee – you goddamn STARCAKE.